Wednesday, July 16, 2014

#DirtyPout Giveaway!!

We are at it again! 
We both share a reasonable obsession with one particular cosmetic. preeeeecious!
Now, Tenisha Jon`ece is a little more adventurous than myself when it comes to color. I'm more of a pinks, reds and neutrals type of girl. I'm just starting to warm up the concept that shades of orange and purple look great on my skin tone! But Ms. Tenisha on the other hand....was in the market for an awesome blue lipstick. I didn't have an idea on where to send her and another friend recommended that she check out Dirty Debutante CosmeticsThe owner kindly sent her a couple of her amazing full size products and Tenisha Jon`ece decided to share with me! We decided it would be a great time to team up again for another awesome giveaway! We'd love to gift one of our readers by sending ya'll an introduction to this company too! 

We have two prize packs filled with one lipstick, and one gloss!! 
So, yes, that means 2 winners!!!
Want a chance to enter? Be calm my pretties!

Coming Soon...July 19th 12:00a EST

Talk to you later lovelies, 

 ~Shan, Ms. Naturally Random

Monday, July 14, 2014

Motivational Monday

Hello lovelies! 

Today's Motivational Monday is a great "GET UP AND GET MOVING" song! If you are looking for something to help you get through that workout this morning, this one will definitely put you in a "feel good" mood. 

I love the lyrics.
"When you get elevated, They love it or they hate it

You dance up on them haters"

Janelle is telling us that you have to find balance in this journey called life. No matter how far you go, no matter how much success you have, their will be people that aren't as excited about your success as you are and that's ok! Totally ok! Don't waste time and focus on trying to convince others. Walk your walk and progress will come in your own time. My husband and I also love a song that lyrics say "we ran own pace, we won our race!" Its by Kindred and its called "Stars". Do just that! Your biggest competitor is staring you in the mirror! Let your competition be the timer, not the person running beside you. Now let's start our week and "t-t-t-tip on the tightrope"...

Talk to you later lovelies, 

~Shan, Ms. Naturally Random

Friday, July 11, 2014

30 by Thirty: The Road to Official Adulthood

I will turn thirty on August 21, 2014.
That gives me a little more than one month to do all of the things on this list…

Let the games begin!!! 
(in no particular order) 
1. Buy a new purse
2. Order new contact cards 
3. Purge & Reorganize my jewelry
4. Do an DIY project
5. Dye my hair
6. Finally get a thrift garment altered & wear it! 
7. Take time and polish my nails 
8. Wear a weave/wig 
9. Use a grill by myself
10. Participate in a group fitness activity
11. Try a new restaurant 
12. Purge & Organize makeup
13. Lipstick Haul *just being honest* 
14. Get eyebrows shaped professionally 
15. Shop for lingerie 
16. Go to a concert/play/live entertainment
17. Get a haircut *big friggin deal!* 
18. Have a dinner party
19. Reevaluate retirement savings plan
20. Try a new recipe & blog about it
21. Take a road trip 
22. Enter a contest
23. Bake a cake from scratch
24. Come up with a tag line for "Ms. Naturally Random" 
25. Decide whether or not to get a tattoo 
26. Wash my car
27. Start a skin care regimen 
28. Practice applying "smokey" eye makeup 
29. Do a blog giveaway
30. Drink coffee
(I’m crossing them off the list as I complete them.) 

Now, I'll be completely honest. Officially, I'm giving myself until the end of August to complete all items listed. So technically, this is the "30 by End of Bday Month" List LOL!  

Talk to you later lovelies, 

~Shan, Ms. Naturally Random 

Thursday, July 10, 2014

Random Philanthropy: #LunchAngels

You never know when you'll find something you thought you didn't need. Well today's post isn't about a new lipstick or recipe. Recently, during my late night office hours ("me" time/work on blog time/after Sky is sleep time) I had to opportunity to just wander about Facebook. Check in on the interwebs...caught up with a few friends, laughed at a few statuses, denied a ton of game know the usual Facebook adventures.  Now, I have tons of Facebook "friends", probably way too many so it takes a bit of attention grabbing to actually get me to stop and click on a link that is going to take me away from my mindless scrolling of the timeline! Well, one post had just enough to draw me away and I'm grateful I allowed it to do so. All of sudden I scroll past the most adorable faces smiling at me. It was a picture of a mother and daughter. Being a new mom and I absolutely had to stop and just reflect. Then I realized it was much more than just a tender moment caught by a camera. The photo had been attached to a account. So, first, Mom is a Falcon (#HBCUPride) and second, the kid is totally adorable and third, I know her fiance and he's a Falcon & blogger as well and pretty cool dude (*cough, cough #teamfife loves weddings btw)

Here is an except from their gofundme post:

"We have a huge population of homeless of all ages in Raleigh, and we want to do something about it. I want to make bagged lunches, stuff the bags with some essential items for homeless men and women such as personal care items, and a note of encouragement." 

What an awesome idea, right?! My husband and I (together and on separate occasions) have worked with programs to assist the homeless population in Raleigh. This lead me to want to get to know Mom and daughter a little better, so I asked Mom for an interview. Here it is below...

Q. Introduce yourself! (Bre
A. I am Bre. I can be found at @_missbre on twitter. 

Q. What does charity mean to you? (Jayden)
A. It makes me have a warm feeling inside of me. I like to think I did something good, I did something nice.

Q. Why did you want to start this project? (Bre)
A.Well, I wanted to start this project so that my daughter can understand social responsibility, but she actually came up with most of the idea.  I think that a lot of time people associate homelessness with bigger cities an that is just not the case.
Q. What do you want to be when you grow up? (Jayden)
A. I want to be an artist and a person that helps the homeless. 

Q. So many people have the ability to ignore homelessness, we drive past people on street corners, walk past people on benches downtown, why would you say it is important to pay attention to this issue? (Bre)
A. I can't ignore homelessness because I have been the homeless.  I am very blessed to be where I am and I want my daughter to understand that. We aren't too far removed as a people from being the needy.  Middle class (starts) at around 50K yearly and the average salary in RDU is 30-40K. That leaves a lot of us working paycheck to paycheck. 

Q. After you have completed this first project, would you like to do more in the future? (Bre)
A. Because the fundraiser is going so well, we are working towards next weekend, July 19 - 20. I would like this to become a monthly thing. I know that hunger is an everyday problem and we want to do all we can to help.  Since it is the summer, I also want to focus on bringing lunch to children that are out of school for the summer.

Q. Besides funds, how can we help with this cause? (Bre)
A. Money is a small part of this effort. A HUGE way to help is to spread the word. 

Q. How does it feel to know you are helping other people? (Jayden)  
A. It feels SO good! It feels great! I feel very happy!

Donate here: 

Community service and philanthropy are very near and dear to my heart...its a passion that I share with my husband and we intend to share with it our daughter. Helping people isn't to get public recognition for it but it is just the right thing to do. Here is one of the many reasons of why I was inspired to help.

James 2:14-17 
What good is it, my brothers, if someone says he has faith but does not have works? Can that faith save him? If a brother or sister is poorly clothed and lacking in daily food, and one of you says to them, “Go in peace, be warmed and filled,” without giving them the things needed for the body, what good is that? So also faith by itself, if it does not have works, is dead. (ESV) 

Click >>> #LunchAngels for more information! 

Talk to you later lovelies,

~Shan, Ms. Naturally Random  

Wednesday, July 9, 2014

Textured Beauty Spotlight!

Here at Ms. Naturally Random! I'm always out and about seeing fabulous ladies with textured tresses. I choose to wear my hair naturally as well, I love the diversity in which we style our hair. I understand that for a lot of us, our "going natural" stories are often quite unique as well.  I'd like to celebrate our differences and hopefully share some insight into other's "natural hair journeys" as I continue my own. 

Recently, I reconnected with a high school friend and now a fellow "Textured Beauty" and I had the opportunity to catch up and interview her. Here is our Q&A session. 

Shan: Introduce yourself! Quick bio, please include where you can be found online.
Chauncia: Child of God, Allen & Adriene. #helpmeet #momShell #DIVA With a name like #Chauncia, it has to be good! #imnotoneinamillionimoneofakind

My name is Chauncia. I graduated from the University of Missouri Columbia. I am a freelance writer and editor. I’m from St. Louis but I recently moved to Orlando. I love to talk, read, laugh, and spend quality time with my family and friends. I love natural hair, but don’t think anyone should be ridiculed for their tresses. I’m #teamDoYou It’s all love.

IG: @Chauncia Twitter: @Chauncia Blog: (I haven’t updated in two years)

S: Why did you make the decision to "go" natural?
C: I have Systemic Lupus Erythematosus which sometimes affects my scalp, causing sores. When I would get relaxers, the chemical treatment would burn more than normal to the point where it was excruciating (not every time, but frequently). You would think I would stop after the first time, but I was sick and in college and I didn’t feel like maintaining my hair without the relaxer. That’s actually a little shameful, but whatevs…

Eventually, I realized that it was ridiculous to endure that type of pain and damage. So, in December 2008, I got my last relaxer. At the time, I had planned on wearing straightened hair without chemicals, so I got a partial sew-in. I would flat iron or press the leave out whenever necessary. I continued getting sew-ins throughout 2009, but in my third trimester of pregnancy, I was too sick and tired to maintain my hair. I didn’t want to get a relaxer, so I had my hair braided. I was one year natural when I delivered my daughter in December 2009.

By the second week of January 2010, I had removed my braids and I couldn’t manage being a new mother and hair care. After struggling to flat iron my hair one night, I had my husband attempt to press the back of my hair for me. (Yikes!) It was then that I decided to go back to relaxers. I was 13 months into my natural journey and I couldn’t take it anymore. I continued to get relaxers (some terribly painful) for two more years. In April 2012, I got my last relaxer. My daughter was two and a half with her own head of kinky curls and I wanted to be a role model for her. And, I was tired of the pain.

S: When and how did you transition into natural hair?
C: Again, my last relaxer was in April 2012. I wore a partial sew-in for one month, and then I had my hair braided. I decided that in order to avoid relaxers and stay natural, I needed to keep my hair away from myself. I continued getting braids/twists for seven months. And in December 2012, I cut some of my relaxed ends before having my hair braided. I kept my hair braided for five more months. And to commemorate one year natural in May 2012, I cut off all of my relaxed ends… and then I had my hair braided. I kept my hair braided for five more months and then I was ready to see my completely natural hair for the first time.

S: In what ways (if any) has going natural affected you?
C: I don’t really think wearing my natural hair has really affected me. My hair is much healthier and the growth and strength is amazing. My hair fell out from the root for at least 10 years before and after my lupus diagnosis. My hair is no longer falling out because I am not exacerbating my condition. Superficially, I have never received more compliments on my hair in my life. People constantly ask where I get my hair done (home) and if I am wearing a wig or a sew-in (neither). People frequently ask me for tips or just tell me they wish they had hair like mine. Natural is good for my self-esteem. 

S: What mistakes (if any) have you made with your hair that you've learned from?
C: My afro—kinky, curly, or a combination of the two—came about through trial and error. When I revealed my natural hair in October 2013, I had it flat ironed and tight curled for an event. When I washed that style out, I was impressed with my curls, but I found that I didn’t know how to manage them. I had been managing my daughter’s natural hair for almost four years, so I just used her products: Kinky Curly Knot Today and several items from the Shea Moisture Line like the soufflĂ©, smoothie, and mousse. I tried to style my hair in a mohawk (fail), a twist out (fail), and a kinky bun (eh). One day, I gave up on my hair. I washed my hair and applied detangling and curl enhancing products. I was going to try to do a knot-out, but I didn’t feel like it.

My husband came home and told me my hair—which was just sitting with no style—was beautiful. He suggested I leave it like that. I didn’t really like the style, but I left it “as is” anyway. That day and the next my family and friends raved over my style. I still didn’t love it, but they made me feel good. So, I would say one mistake I made was trying to do too much. I’m not so much in this for the fancy styles as I am for the benefit of having a healthy scalp and strong hair and being an example of pride for my daughter. I am still willing to try though, because the styles are super cute. (I’m looking forward to rocking a big, fluffy puff.) One more mistake I made was going to bed without twisting my hair. A satin cap and an untwisted natural do not mix. My shrinkage is crazy.

S: What is your go-to hairstyle?

C: My go to styles are my afro and braids. My hair varies from curly to kinky curly depending on my use of the curl enhancer (Shea Moisture). I keep my hair braided when my lupus fatigue is too overwhelming to manage my hair or when the weather is not optimal for excellent hair management. I wear my braids in several different styles, but my favorite is the high bun.

S: Share a random fact about yourself.
C: I had my first chemical treatment when I accidentally gave myself a relaxer at two years old. So, I never really knew myself as natural until two and a half months before I turned 30. (I was in a house full of people. Is it too late to hotline? I mean, who was watching me?). I also had a processed curl for about half a year as a toddler. LOL

Thanks for reading and check out @Chauncia on IG and Twitter

Talk to you later lovelies

~Shan, Ms. Naturally Random

Monday, July 7, 2014

Motivational Monday

I always love to start my day with a bit music...this is often just singing in the shower to my heart's content! A recent morning started a bit different. I sat down while Pumpkin was napping and thought I'd do a quick jot in my journal...

I'd totally forgot was on the first page...the lyrics to Natasha Bedingfield's song "Unwritten". If you're not familiar with the song click here are the lyrics.

It just reminded me that life is like "staring a blank page" and we are responsible for writing our own stories. Stop being defined by others! No one else can tell it like you can. You have value and you have purpose. So let's all give it go this week, be excited that you have another opportunity to share your story.

Talk to you later lovelies,

~Shan, Ms. Naturally Random

Friday, July 4, 2014

WLW Web Series: Just Say No!

Women Living Whole: "Diamond" Web Series 
Just Say No!

Last month we discussed accepting our challenges. The Hebrew boys in Daniel chapter 3 were covered when King Nebuchadnezzar gave them a challenge to bow before the golden image that he had created. In verse 16 – 18 the Hebrew boys give their response. The Hebrew boys tell King Nebuchadnezzar, NO! We will not serve your golden image. If it is meant our God will deliver us but if not we will perish. We must be willing to say no even if it means we lose that which we desire.

During our development we must be willing to answer the question. The Hebrew boys answered the question. They said no. We will not bow. We have all heard the saying if you do not stand for something you will fall for anything. Well it is absolutely true. You must be willing to stand up and say no. This is part of your development process. During this phase we learn that saying no is not only acceptable but it is necessary. It will be vital to show assertiveness and use the word no from time to time. We must learn to say no to situations that can cause us harm. Harm can be mental, physical, spiritual, or emotional. If there is something in your life that is not adding value to you; not fulfilling to you; is sucking the life out of you; making you feel lower than what you were created to be; if it is going against your core beliefs then it is beneficial for you to say NO.

For those who are thinking, I still let it happen to me; I am still in the situation; I did not fight Jeanine. I never said a word, I never opened my mouth. Some NO’s are mental. If you have not said no in action you may be saying no in your mind which is your first step. You could be saying to yourself, I will not accept what you are doing to me. There must be a better way. There will be a day I will get out of this mess. I know I was created for more and this situation will not keep me down. If you are starting to say these things in your mind you are changing your thoughts. When you have a change in thought you eventually will have a change in action. Just keeping thinking no and you will say no!

We all have a voice and we all have an opportunity to say NO. You have to be willing to open your mouth and say it. When the time comes you have to be ready to fight for what you believe in and what you know is right. The fight is in you. God has giving you everything that you need. All you have to do is tap into it then stand up boldly and say NO! Be Blessed!